I always wanted to be a lawyer, as far back as I can remember. I started reading at a very young age, and I consumed every book I could get my hands on. In hindsight, my love for books -- acquiring information and thinking about things in a new way -- was the foundation for my legal career.
After attending the University of Tulsa for business school and law school, I started practicing on my own in 2006. My experience was jarring. It didn't take me long to realize that even after 7 years of higher education, including 3 years immersed in law school, I was completely unequipped to practice law. Even though I memorized the law, I struggled in the courtroom for several years.
My Wake-Up Call
Then, I heard Roger Dodd speak about the 3 rules of cross-examination. Everything he said hit home: how anxiety affects us, why open-ended questions are so damaging to our case if used on cross, how information obtained during cross-examination can be superior to direct, and why advance preparation for cross is so critical to success. It was both inspiring and incriminating because he showed how the "conventional" way to do things (the way I and everyone I knew practiced) wasn't just flawed -- it almost assured failure.
Roger changed everything. I bought his book and started implementing the techniques. I won my next two trials after that, back-to-back, and after those trials, each judge uncharacteristically asked to speak to me in their respective offices. The first judge simply said, "Aaron, you're gonna make it." The second judge showed me some tapes of lectures on cross-examination from the 1980s and said, "I've heard about what you just did, but I'd not seen it before." I signed up for the demanding 8-day advocacy program at the National Family Law Trial Institute in Houston, Texas, and started on a path of advocacy skills training and education that continues to this day. As recently as 2021, I completed an intensive year-long Certified Financial Planner certificate program at Southern Methodist University.
Although none of this is a secret -- I've spoken and written about it openly -- most of my peers and competitors ignore or reject the information. Apparently, law school was enough for them. I expect the attorneys I work with to commit to professional development on a level that none of their peers will match. We are constantly educating ourselves through training from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the National Family Law Trial Institute, the National Association of Criminal Defense Lawyers, the National Criminal Defense College, and more. The attorneys at our law firm have achieved extraordinary recognition from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Best Lawyers in America, and Super Lawyers. We have earned a reputation for success in negotiation, trial, and appeal. Our method works.
I am a trial lawyer. My focus is on family law in the broadest sense. As divorces involving High Net Worth individuals can be extremely high-stakes, with millions of dollars on the line, I acquired the world's most advanced case-management system and combined it with A.I.-powered processes to help analyze the volumes of data associated with complex financial cases. The most high-conflict family law matters, including child custody cases, often include allegations of criminal conduct, and I represent individuals accused of crimes in that context. My advice is grounded in my unique mix of trial experience, communications and advocacy training, and financial and valuation education. I describe the litigation process and timeline to each client; then I work with you to identify your goals and create an actionable plan to achieve those goals.
- Family Law
- Criminal Defense
- Civil Justice
Honors and Awards
Professional Associations and Memberships
- American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
- President, Oklahoma Chapter - 2022
- AAML / AFCC Committee - 2021-2022
- Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, New York Chapter
- American Bar Association, Litigation and Family Law Sections
- Chair, Trial Practice & Techniques Committee, 2022-2023 (ABA Family Law Section)
- Oklahoma Bar Journal, Associate Editor, 12/2017 to Present
- Oklahoma Bar Association, Family Law Section
- Oklahoma Criminal Defense Lawyers Association
- National Association of Criminal Defense Lawyers
- United States Supreme Court
- U.S. Court of Appeals, 10th Circuit
- New York
- District of Columbia
- U.S. District Court Western District of Oklahoma
- U.S. District Court Northern District of Oklahoma
- Supreme Court of the Muscogee (Creek) Nation
- Southern Methodist University Continuing & Professional Education
- University of Tulsa College of Law, Tulsa, Oklahoma
- University of Tulsa, Tulsa, Oklahoma
"Marijuana and Family Law," Oklahoma Bar Journal, March 2021, Oklahoma Bar Association
"Delete Boilerplate to Improve Discovery and Avoid Trouble," - Oklahoma Bar Association, Family Law Section Practice Manual
“Where to Start? Preparing to Examine a Family Law Expert,” Oklahoma Bar Journal, March 2018, Oklahoma Bar Association
“Show Them Yours,” Tulsa Lawyer Magazine, January 2017, Tulsa Lawyer Magazine
“Slaying the Speaking Objection Dragon,” Oklahoma Bar Journal, November 19, 2016, Oklahoma Bar Association
“Leading the Way,” Oklahoma Bar Journal, November 19, 2016, Oklahoma Bar Association
“Connecting in the Courtroom,” Tulsa Lawyer Magazine, October 2016, Tulsa Lawyer Magazine
“Slowing Down,” Tulsa Lawyer Magazine, August 2016, Tulsa Lawyer Magazine
“OBJECTION: Dealing With Speaking Objections In Trial,” Tulsa Lawyer Magazine, January, 2016, Tulsa Lawyer Magazine
“Privilege and Work-Product Considerations for Using an Expert as a Consultant,” Oklahoma Bar Journal, December 19, 2015, Oklahoma Bar Association